How to be a Perfect Wife

It is not difficult to be a perfect wife. After all, if 'I' believe 'I' am perfect, nobody can say otherwise. 'I' look after the children. 'I' cook for him. 'I' contribute to the household economy. 'I' make sure the children would not disturb him whenever he comes home tired. 'I' run around with the errands. 'I' even fake the orgasm when necessary. Why? So that he can be a perfect husband. Therefore, after all of the above and a whole lot more, 'I' have to be a perfect wife.

It is, however, difficult - but not impossible - to be the perfect wife. After all of the above and a whole lot more, the physical, emotional and psychological drain will ultimately make 'me' wonder - who am 'I'? This has led many wives to embark on a soul search journey. They cannot understand why, after all that they have done and sacrifices that they have made, they are not appreciated by the species whom they believe they have been a perfect wife to. They become frustrated and disillusioned and they leave the marriage.They fail to realise that in wanting to be a perfect wife, they have lost a perfect 'me'.

If 'me' is lost in the equation, even the 'wife' cannot be in existence, what more the perfect wife. After all, the wife - or the perfect wife - is not just a title. It is about the life of a being. Therefore, 'me' has to be substantiated.

If 'I' am not happy with 'me', then 'I' have to do something about it. Because especially in a marriage - a union of two different individuals - 'I' have to be the perfect 'me' to 'myself' for 'me' to be the perfect wife. After all, that title is very much dependent on who, what and how 'I' am.

The bottom line is to be the perfect wife, first be the perfect 'me'. Because it was 'me' whom he had married - for better or for worse - either two days, or three weeks, or four months, or five years, or even many decades ago